opportunity to rub elbows with major
gay and straight figures of media,
business, and politics; some of
whose work I admire and respect,
but not always agree with them on
their views. That respect should not
be construed as tacit approval but in
my quest to be more aware I like to
expose myself to people that I don’t
always agree with.
The star of the night, Ann Coulter,
lived up to her image as a brash,
bold, opinionated, and strong
woman - all things that gay men
have long-adored in their iconic
women. Homocon even billed Ms.
Coulter as the Judy Garland of the
gay right-wing, a term she herself
has coined in an email exchange.
Ann had no problem speaking her
politically incorrect mind and her
presence was exciting for me not
only because she is infamous for
rubbing liberal America the wrong
way but her political shtick is more
conservative comedy
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The NY Times Boy Butter and Ann Coulter Juxtaposition
by Eyal Feldman

It has been a few weeks since I attended Homocon 2010, an event marking the one-
year anniversary of GOProud, a Washington-based advocacy group for gay
conservatives. My friends have been scratching their heads about my attendance at this
event, especially after Sunday’s New York Times Style section mentioned Boy Butter
and Ann Coulter posing for a photo together. This perfect juxtaposition was ostensibly
the best way to illustrate Coulter’s participation there and the strange bedfellows that
politics make.
The New York Times set the tone for their article by using my company and a product
that I am proud of, Boy Butter, as a representation of all that is wacky, gay and liberal
standing in stark contrast with Ann Coulter, or all that is right-wing, Christian and
I was invited to Homocon by one of my closest friends, Steve Yuhas, a proud gay,
Jewish, conservative, former Marine radio talk show host from San Diego’s AM 600
KOGO Radio. It was an exciting event to attend, because it was the first political event I
have been to since seeing Hillary and Bill at the Abyssinian Baptist church in Harlem
during the 2008 campaign. At Homocon, I had the rare

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and fun-poking than it is terribly serious.
I myself do not subscribe to all of her opinions, but I do like some of her stances on the
economy, federal spending, foreign policy and limits on the power of the government. Like
most people I meet in this world, I took Ann Coulter’s views with a grain of salt and for all
those who are worried, my physical proximity to her that night in no way means that we are
always on the same page, politically speaking.
My personal political viewpoints are as complex as most people’s, but if forced to choose a
political label, it would be a quasi-Libertarian; socially progressive, yet fiscally conservative
without being isolationist internationally. Like many people today my beliefs overlap with the
left and right-of-center politics because being a gay man makes me more
On social level I relate more with social progress  and liberalism; however my identity as a
businessman also endears me to believe in being strong on fiscal and personal
 I am a hodgepodge of opinions and beliefs and there are many factors in my life that have
led me to choose one path over another. Sometimes I have multiple paths driving me at the
same time. I have no difficulty in reversing course, admitting when I’m wrong and changing
my mind. I believe in gay marriage, in repealing “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell,” legalizing Marijuana
and litany of other things that would stop anyone from painting me as one thing or another.
Heck, I even voted for every Democratic presidential candidate from Bill Clinton to Barack
Obama, though I do share a bit of buyer’s remorse over the last one. I’m sure many in the
country agree.
The idea of a gay conservative movement is not new or unique, but it does exist out of
perceived failures or mismanagement of established gay organizations to champion our
rights; realize our wishes; or speak with a clear and unified voice. We should welcome gay
conservatives as we do gay liberals, because a variety of viewpoints is more preferable to  
too few of them.
I wanted to thank the NY Times for juxtaposing Boy Butter as a product with the appearance
of Ann Coulter at Homocon, because (yes, I love the press) I think it is healthy to see people
of different viewpoints debating, sharing ideas, and just being together. I only hope that
more of this kind of idea sharing happens because nobody is going to dissuade me from
my beliefs any more than I will be able to convince Ann Coulter that gay marriage is a good